Lead Courageously

If you thought that, as a man, you could just follow on someone else’s shirt tail and not make decisions or lead when it is necessary, let me help you understand what God demands of us, as men. Let me help you understand why, seeking to never be responsible as a leader, is far from what God has had in store for you and for men in general.

Read below and begin to lead, in whatever situation you find yourself. Learn how to be a good leader, even if it is just yourself that you are leading.

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2017 – A Year in Review

Well, another year has gone by and we have had some milestones happen. This has been a good year for us, so, in an effort to recap what has been happening, let’s look back at last years review. (Make sure to scroll down and check out all of the articles. Also, write a comment on your favorite article, or articles.)


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As for this year, well, let’s just say it started a little slow. January through April, we had a total of 1,019 views to our site. Four months and we barely had any viewership, which made me wonder if this was at all worth it.

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We are called to Accept Responsibility

Are you one who would rather let someone else lead, always accepting their leadership? For some, this is just being a good follower, a good worker, accepting the responsibility of doing what is expected. There is nothing wrong with being the worker, not the follower, if you are doing it to the best you can, but maybe you just don’t want to have responsibility, because, what happens when you screw up, right? Maybe you find that you tend to pass your responsibilities off to others, to your wife, your parents, your boss, your pastor, or your friends.

God didn’t make you, as a man, to shed your responsibilities on others, or to shirk them because you might make a bad decision. No, He has called you to accept the responsibilities He is handing you, some come with manhood and some happen as we step up into ministry roles, but, they are to be accepted. They are ours, not another persons.

We are to step up and accept them, period.

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In regards to accepting responsibility, scripture is clear.

1 Corinthians 16:13 (NET) says;

Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.

I was perplexed, at first, when I went to chapter 16 and read it in its entirety. Most of the time, when looking for context, there is a series of verses that come together, to make a statement that is better understood in that series than when you just take the one verse out of the series. Continue reading

Reject passivity

Men, there is no sideline in this war we are in.

Yes, this is a spiritual war (Ephesians 6:12 NET), yes, it is easy to sit on the couch and watch a movie, yes, it is easy to get up, go to work, come home, sleep, repeat as necessary, but, is that what we are meant, as men, to do?

I submit to you, we are not.

Passivity is a very dangerous weapon the enemy has used for centuries and he has really gotten good at using it. Read on to see what I mean by rejecting passivity.


We start our text by looking into the following passage.

Romans 12:2 (NET) says;

Do not be conformed to this present world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may test and approve what is the will of God—what is good and well-pleasing and perfect.

To see this in context, I believe we should look at it in these verses, 1-8.

12 Therefore I exhort you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a sacrifice—alive, holy, and pleasing to God—which is your reasonable service. Do not be conformed to this present world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may test and approve what is the will of God—what is good and well-pleasing and perfect.

For by the grace given to me I say to every one of you not to think more highly of yourself than you ought to think, but to think with sober discernment, as God has distributed to each of you a measure of faith. For just as in one body we have many members, and not all the members serve the same function, so we who are many are one body in Christ, and individually we are members who belong to one another. And we have different gifts according to the grace given to us. If the gift is prophecy, that individual must use it in proportion to his faith. If it is service, he must serve; if it is teaching, he must teach; if it is exhortation, he must exhort; if it is contributing, he must do so with sincerity; if it is leadership, he must do so with diligence; if it is showing mercy, he must do so with cheerfulness

In an effort to understand what is required of us, based on scripture, I believe that this gives us an idea of what we are to do and why.

We are told that our reasonable service, or the very least we can do, is to offer ourselves up as a living sacrifice, that we are not to allow the world to dictate what we do, say or think, but that we are to do what God wants us to do, testing what we hear from Him with His Word. Pretty simple, right?

Verses 3 through 8 explain to us why we are to be about our Fathers work, to paraphrase Jesus words.

God gave us gifts and placed us in certain places, so that we would do what He has asked of us. Not so that we could remain quiet and passive and watch others do what we were given the gift to do.

1 Corinthians 12:8-26

For one person is given through the Spirit the message of wisdom, and another the message of knowledge according to the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, and to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, 10 to another performance of miracles, to another prophecy, and to another discernment of spirits, to another different kinds of tongues, and to another the interpretation of tongues. 11 It is one and the same Spirit, distributing as he decides to each person, who produces all these things.

12 For just as the body is one and yet has many members, and all the members of the body—though many—are one body, so too is Christ. 13 For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body. Whether Jews or Greeks or slaves or free, we were all made to drink of the one Spirit. 14 For in fact the body is not a single member, but many. 15 If the foot says, “Since I am not a hand, I am not part of the body,” it does not lose its membership in the body because of that. 16 And if the ear says, “Since I am not an eye, I am not part of the body,” it does not lose its membership in the body because of that. 17 If the whole body were an eye, what part would do the hearing? If the whole were an ear, what part would exercise the sense of smell? 18 But as a matter of fact, God has placed each of the members in the body just as he decided. 19 If they were all the same member, where would the body be? 20 So now there are many members, but one body. 21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I do not need you,” nor in turn can the head say to the foot, “I do not need you.” 22 On the contrary, those members that seem to be weaker are essential, 23 and those members we consider less honorable we clothe with greater honor, and our unpresentable members are clothed with dignity, 24 but our presentable members do not need this. Instead, God has blended together the body, giving greater honor to the lesser member, 25 so that there may be no division in the body, but the members may have mutual concern for one another. 26 If one member suffers, everyone suffers with it. If a member is honored, all rejoice with it.

27 Now you are Christ’s body, and each of you is a member of it. 28 And God has placed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, gifts of healing, helps, gifts of leadership, different kinds of tongues. 29 Not all are apostles, are they? Not all are prophets, are they? Not all are teachers, are they? Not all perform miracles, do they? 30 Not all have gifts of healing, do they? Not all speak in tongues, do they? Not all interpret, do they? 31 But you should be eager for the greater gifts.

What if your heart decided to just stop so that your lungs could pump blood? Not a very healthy thing to have happen, right?

It is the same in the body of Christ, where no one is more, or less, important than another, but all are needed and required to make it run smoothly.

Passivity is the idea that you are not needed, that your gift is nothing and that another can do what you do. This is a lie from the pit of hell itself and needs to be corrected in your life. God knew you before you were born, He made you with specific abilities, to complete His purpose. Others may be able to make up for your absence, in the same way we can learn how to grasp if our thumb is missing, but, it is never the way it was intended to be. You are needed in the Body of Christ, you are not unimportant, you are specifically designed, so step up.

As a biblical man, you must trust that God has a plan and a purpose for you, something for you to do and has no alternative plan, you are it and He has prepared you and those around you for you to be active.


 

About Breakthrough Ministries

As I write this out, I am aware that there are those who may read this who do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I implore you to start by reading my article, Restoration and make a decision. If you don’t think you need to hurry, or you have plenty of time, please consider this article, I’m going to fix it, someday.

Breakthrough ministries is a place for men to learn about God, Jesus and what it means to be a biblical man. This ministry is a part of the Customs N Classics blog.

Having struggled with addictions and depression, (Attempted suicide and just feeling depressed.) I realized that I had never learned how to be a man.

My biological father decided to remove himself from my life at a very young age. When I was 2 years old, he chose suicide as his only way out. Apparently, he had no more hope and did what he thought was right, in his own eyes, leaving me fatherless and with no guidance with which to navigate this world.

At 18, I joined the Army and was expected to act like a grown man, like a responsible adult. I was trained to shoot a weapon and be a soldier, however, no one ever actually explained what it meant to be a man. I was expected to figure it out on my own.

I have struggled through Suicide attempts, depression, alcoholism, drug abuse, sexual addiction, smoking and many other things that brought out addictive tendencies, in an effort to find my way.

I searched many different religions and world structures, I even tried different careers. Nothing I ever tried brought peace or made me feel like I was doing the right thing.

I began to learn what being an adult meant on March 15, 1997, when I accepted the work Jesus did on the cross to save me from eternal damnation, but, this still didn’t bring me close to what a real man is. (If you would like to know what this is, click here.)

It has only been the last 8 years, or so, that I have begun to learn what a real man is and how to become one. (Spoiler alert; It is a lifelong process that can only begin when we let God begin to take us through the process. Don’t think you need to worry about this yet? Please click here.)

My goal in this ministry is to create a place where men can go and begin the process. To get confirmation, if needed, or to get tools and encouragement as well. A place where you may find a book to read, a site to go to, or a challenge to complete, all with the idea that your journey is never complete, until your last breath and you awake in front of Jesus Himself.

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To become a man

As I write this out, I am aware that there are those who may read this who do not have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. I implore you to start by reading my article, Restoration and make a decision. If you don’t think you need to hurry, or you have plenty of time, please consider this article, I’m going to fix it, someday.


1 Corinthians 13:11

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I became an adult, I set aside childish ways.

Let’s try to understand what this means to us and to our walk as a Christian man.

This scripture, by itself is powerful, but can create confusion in men who may have never seen or heard what it is to put away childish things. We automatically think that it means to stop playing with toys, or that we can’t expect things to be done for us, but, I believe it is something different.

Consider how a child acts and thinks. They come out unable to do anything for themselves, so, as a parent, we do things for them. If they want fed, they let us know, quickly. There is no patience, only frustration on their part. They do not understand why you don’t know what is wrong, or what they need, they just know they need.

As they get older, they begin to expect that things will get done for them, that things will just show up if they ask. They are selfish and think selfishly. Not so much because they want to be that way, but because that is all they have ever known, so, we as parents begin to show them and teach them things like patience, selflessness, manners, etc.

The first part of this scripture is talking directly to this, to how a child acts and reacts, how they think and how they reason, but the second part is an action that needs to take place in order for us to enter into manhood. We begin to shed selfishness for selflessness, we become more patient, we start to do things for others and to stop expecting that things will just be done for us. We take on responsibility and begin to lead like we were meant to.

So, on the surface, this scripture is pretty clear what we should be doing to grow into a man of God, but, if you put it into context, you get so much more. Let’s go and look at the whole chapter.

1 Corinthians 13 (NET Bible)

13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but I do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith so that I can remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I give over my body in order to boast, but do not have love, I receive no benefit.

Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious. Love does not brag, it is not puffed up. It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful. It is not glad about injustice, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. But if there are prophecies, they will be set aside; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be set aside. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part, 10 but when what is perfect comes, the partial will be set aside. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I became an adult, I set aside childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror indirectly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, just as I have been fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.

By looking at the whole chapter, we see that the writer is talking about love. Not just the idea that we should love each other, but, what love is, exactly. This helps us put our text into its proper context, that we are talking about the love we should have for one another. It also allows us to understand what the author meant in this passage, instead of applying it in ways it should not be applied, or to things it had no reason to be applied to.

The chapter starts out listing things we can do, with or without love as the catalyst. It shares that even if we are the best at it, without love, we are nothing, we are bankrupt. It allows us to see that there are many reasons to do something, to say something and to give something, but there is only one reason that counts in the end.

Then the chapter changes and explains what love really is, what it means to truly love. It starts at listing what love is and then makes sure we understand what love is not, then ends with what love does. It is imperative that we understand this section, prior to trying to impart it into our lives, as this enables us to test our motives, or desires, against what scripture says.


It is important to understand that we are to test all things. To test them means to study them and seek truth, not just what we want to hear.
1 Thessalonians 5:21
21 But examine all things; hold fast to what is good.

Verses 8 through 12 allows us to get a glimpse of application. To begin to align our lives with scripture in regard to love, including how to act. To act with love is to reject passivity and to be responsible. To accept that we have responsibilities and to act accordingly, with courage. We are not to just stand on the sidelines of life and allow others to do everything. No, we should confront,  in love, the very things that could bring destruction upon another, because, if we have love, true love as the scriptures state, we will stand and pour ourselves out to help others, even unto our own death.

2 Timothy 2:22-26 gives us another perspective on this matter, helping us to understand the passage and our responsibilities to remain active.

2 Timothy 2:22-26

22 So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. 23 Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels. 24 And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, 25 correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, 26 and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.

Being passive in helping others see the truth leads to sending them to hell, plain and simple. If we claim to be followers of Christ, we cannot just watch others die and end up in hell without a fight, we must act!

1 Corinthians 13:13 brings everything back into a Godly perspective.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.

We know that we are to hope for eternity, having faith in the knowledge of our salvation, that we are to have hope in Christ, to have faith in what He did on the cross, however, these two are only real in our lives if we have true love in our hearts. The kind of love that was spoken of in 1 Corinthians 13, the kind of love that motivates us to get up and get out, to share the truth with others, no matter the cost to ourselves.

This is what it means to put off the childish ways and to become a man.

 

 

Knight’s Code of Conduct – By Raising a Modern Day Knight

To be fair, I got this list with these scriptures from Raising a Modern Day Knight. Click the link to check out their site.

I intend to go through these scriptures like I did with the “Definition of a Godly Man”


Loyalty

Hosea 6:6

For I delight in faithfulness, not simply in sacrifice;
I delight in acknowledging God, not simply in whole burnt offerings.

Servant Leadership

Matthew 20:26-27

It must not be this way among you! Instead whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first among you must be your slave

Honesty

Ephesians 4:25

Therefore, having laid aside falsehood, each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.

Self-Discipline

1 Timothy 4:7-8

But reject those myths fit only for the godless and gullible, and train yourself for godliness. For “physical exercise has some value, but godliness is valuable in every way. It holds promise for the present life and for the life to come.”

Kindness

Proverbs 19:22

What is desirable for a person is to show loyal love,
and a poor person is better than a liar.

Humility

Philippians 2:3

Instead of being motivated by selfish ambition or vanity, each of you should, in humility, be moved to treat one another as more important than yourself.

Excellence

1 Corinthians 9:24

Do you not know that all the runners in a stadium compete, but only one receives the prize? So run to win.

Integrity

Proverbs 10:9

The one who conducts himself in integrity will live securely,
but the one who behaves perversely will be found out.

Perseverance

Galatians 6:9

So we must not grow weary in doing good, for in due time we will reap, if we do not give up.

Purity

1 Timothy 4:12

Let no one look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in your speech, conduct, love, faithfulness, and purity.